I have been reading a book a friend sent me. It's called the secret. The basic idea behind the book is that you attract to you the kind of energy that you think about... well sort of. Basically, if you think happy thoughts and positive thoughts about say... money... then money will come to you. Tell yourself you are going to get that promotion at work or you will get that pay raise next month or anything along those lines. To that end, if you think negative thoughts, then bad energy comes to you. If you think of yourself as unattractive and that love will not find you, then it's going to be that way. You will stay alone in the dark forever.
I have been trying to concepts in this book out, to a small degree. Mostly because I was skeptical at first as to how well it would work. I can tell you that telling yourself every day for three weeks that you will get that raise or that you will come in to a crap ton of money... yea, that bullshit doesn't work. Telling myself that I am an attractive man and that women find me attractive and that they are interested... yea, that's total bullshit too.
As I have continued to read the book, I am getting the understanding of what this book is looking at as far as the law of attraction goes. It's an important lesson to be sure but it isn't one that is learnable by everyone. I can tell you that this big secret that is being talked about really isn't so much a secret as it is a way of living life. A structure of belief that can tie in with or go beyond what you fell on the level of religion. The book talks about the power of attraction, the strength of thought, and the will behind what one person believes. I think, from what all I have gathered, that this book is saying what most of us know but never admit. Your focus determines your reality.
The idea that if you want something bad enough it will happen is what this book is trying to get across. It states, in essence, that if you believe something strong enough and you hold to that belief then it will happen. There is nothing wrong with this thought process though, personally, I view it as flawed. I think this can help on a low grade scale, I do not believe that it will can work on a larger or grand scale. Who knows, maybe that's why the secret won't work for me on that level; because I don't believe on that level.
Here's why I struggle with it. I didn't go around every day saying that I want my marriage to end. Yet it did end. What I will say is that all I ever wanted was for my wife to be happy. There in lay the argument or the rub. Maybe I wasn't enough to make her happy. Hell, maybe I never made her happy. In the end, the marriage ended and I can only guess that she is happy with who she is with now. This is what you could call a negative example.
Let's put a positive note on it. I knew, for a while, that my car was on it's last legs and had been trying to get prepared to have to buy a new car. I wasn't ready to really step up to a car payment again when my car died and I couldn't get the financing. Now, I didn't want my car to die but my thought process was effective enough that maybe it died as a result? I don't know. However, I put my patience out there and I put my faith in God and my wife stepped up and was kind enough to let me keep her van for well over a month. My sister, despite her need of a vehicle, brought the van that she had borrowed from my mom back. My only thought was I needed a vehicle but couldn't handle the car payment yet. The secret at work? You decide.
I still say, and maybe this is what the book really does get at, focus determine's reality. I can throw hundreds of examples for and against the whole idea. In the end, what I will say is I am being open minded about it and trying out a positive approach to things. It doesn't always work but more often than not I am not burned by disappointment.